When it comes time to create your guest list it can cause a lot of stress and chaos from your Mother telling you who to invite, your Father insisting on inviting people that he hasn’t spoken to in years, or your mother in law wanting to invite all of her neighbours and friends. Whatever the case maybe, this is the part of your wedding where you may come across chaos or confusion, but don’t worry I have created some tips to help you with this process.
1. When you get engaged, your first reaction is to announce it to anybody and everybody around you. Which is normal because you are very excited, which you should be, however, sometimes when you announce it to every single person they may think that they will be invited to your wedding. Which will cause chaos for you when you are creating the guest list because these people are always the ones asking you ‘ When is the Wedding?’. Make sure before you announce all of your details over Social Media or to all of your networks that you have a clear vision of your wedding and the scope of the event. This will allow you to get a clear picture of how many people you are actually going to invite.
2. Make sure you are dividing the seats equally among you, your fiance, and both families. Which means if you are having a wedding of 300 people, you get 100, your fiance 100, and your family 50, and his 50. You want to make sure that each person has an equal amount of people that they can invite, no matter who is paying for the seats. This will help to resolve arguments during the process of planning the guest list as sometimes parent’s on both sides may feel that they must invite everybody they know.
3. Again, your parents and in-laws may feel the need that they have to invite every single person they know, or have come into contact with. This is not the case, your wedding is a very intimate celebration for you, your fiance, family, and loved ones. You should not have to invite people who you do not know, have not spoken to in a very long time, or that your parents or in-laws are forcing you to. For every bride this situation does occur and remember to keep your ground, make sure you make it very clear while planning your wedding that this is the amount of people who you want to attend and this is the amount of people each person is allowed to invite. Make sure you are strict with this rule and do not bend the wire for anybody as this could cause problems later on in planning.
4. When you start to figure out exactly who you will be inviting create an excel sheet on your computer with your guest’s names and addresses so you are fully prepared and organized. You want to make sure to confirm everyone’s information before sending out the invitations as well.
5. Sometimes you may be caught in the ‘ Should I invite them? Or should I not invite them’ process, which does happen a lot. If you do come across this always remember this questionnaire process and always follow it, as it helps you determine if they should be invited to the wedding. I find it very helpful, and always ask my clients these questions to ensure that they are inviting the right people.
6. When you are sending out your invitations and response cards, please make sure to either number each response card, put the names of the people on them, or take a black light marker to mark each response card. This will help you in the case that people do not include their names when sending back the response card, which does happen. Or if you have a number of family members with the same first name and last name, so you will know which exact person has sent the RSVP back to you.
7. In the case where you would like to invite co-workers, it is common courtesy if you are inviting one to invite them all. Unless, you have one friend whom you are very close with at work then you can just invite them, given that they do not make it obvious to your other co-workers on their invite. Sometimes bride’s do not like to invite co-workers as they do not like to mix business with pleasure and like to keep it separate. Inviting co-workers is totally up to you and your fiance, there is no rule that says you must invite them.
These tips come in handy when creating your guest list, be sure to make a note of them and keep them close by when planning your guest list. If you require any advice or any services please visit our website http://www.eventsbynatasha.ca and contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org, we would love to hear from you.
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